It’s 5 solutions to 5 questions. Right here we go…
1. Can I ask coworkers to cease introducing me as my dad’s child?
To place it bluntly, I’m a nepotism child. I work as a paralegal at a reasonably small felony protection legislation agency (4 attorneys, one among whom is my dad, an workplace supervisor/paralegal, and me). I acquired my begin working as a authorized assistant for my dad, then one of many different attorneys noticed my work and appreciated it and employed me to work part-time as his assistant. When the receptionist/authorized assistant stop, I began working full-time for the agency normally. I’m good at what I do, however I additionally acknowledge that I wouldn’t have the job or the data with out my dad.
As a result of the agency is so small, everyone seems to be conscious that my dad is my dad, however everybody can be pretty good at conserving our work and residential lives separate. My dad can be pretty well-known amongst felony protection attorneys in my state.
My downside is that this: once I’m at court docket with one of many different attorneys and so they begin speaking to a different felony protection legal professional, I’m usually launched as my dad’s child. I perceive the place the attorneys are coming from, as connections are pretty vital and my dad is fairly nicely appreciated. I perceive that my job is one thing I wouldn’t have gotten with out my dad, however I’d additionally wish to be acknowledged for my very own accomplishments. Is there a method I might politely request that I be launched in a different way, or is that this one thing that I ought to simply settle for as a part of the bundle?
You could possibly say one thing like, “Would you mind introducing me as X, rather than as Jim’s kid? I want to make sure people know me professionally first and foremost.”
Most individuals will get that. That stated, that there’ll most likely all the time be a bit of this, simply because individuals like your dad and are most likely delighted to introduce his offspring (and aren’t desirous about the way it may undermine you professionally). There’s a threat that when you attempt to stamp it out completely or in a very heavy-handed method, it might come throughout as when you’re attempting to cover the connection (which might then make you look insecure about it, and that itself might undermine you) … however a easy one-time request is affordable and shouldn’t come throughout that method.
2. New coworker is obsessive about my LinkedIn profile
A couple of months in the past, a candidate my division wished to rent would verify my LinkedIn profile each week. I’d get a profile view ding each week main as much as her interview and proper earlier than she signed the supply letter. This conduct is completely anticipated. That’s the purpose of LinkedIn.
We finally employed this particular person. And the month earlier than she began, after she signed the supply letter, she’d verify my profile each week — once more. Typically twice per week. So now, we’re speaking 2-3 months of this girl pinging my profile weekly. That struck me as odd so I blocked her. A few times after you’ve signed the supply letter, cool. However repeatedly afterwards struck me as odd.
On her first week, she requested for a 1:1. The primary query requested after the same old “how are yous?” was an aggressive, “I can no longer see your background. I don’t know anything about you. But you know everything about me — you saw my resume when our boss hired me. So it’s only fair I know your background.” Her tone modified. Her face modified. I used to be EXTREMELY uncomfortable. It’s simply LinkedIn, I don’t get it. And she or he does know my background. She checked it 8+ instances this quarter. So, I shortly interjected that she might ask me about my background slightly than viewing my resume. I then gave her my elevator pitch. She appeared fantastic with the response.
Nonetheless, the following week I seen my boss and different teammates have been hastily checking my profile. Odd, as a result of I’ve labored with them for a few 12 months already and I’m not lively on the platform. I simply use it to use for roles. So I’m not likely posting something mind-blowing.
Do I must show to new coworkers that I belong at my present job by exhibiting my background? Is it customary for brand spanking new hires to interview present teammates after they’ve accepted and began work?
I really feel as if she wished to know the way I acquired my job. I completely perceive trying up individuals’s backgrounds to know their experience. However her antics earlier than she began made me uncomfortable. Now that she’s employed, I simply don’t get it. This new girl doesn’t report back to me. We’re now coworkers. Overlook about our backgrounds and let’s simply work collectively.
No, that is extremely bizarre. It’s not odd to take a look at the skilled backgrounds of your new coworkers (that means a easy LinkedIn search, not in-depth digging), however it’s a bit bizarre to go to their profiles again and again, and it’s past bizarre to confront them about why they blocked you after they acquired uncomfortable along with your obsessive checking. And in case your boss and different teammates abruptly your profile signifies that your new coworker was complaining to them in regards to the scenario (which I think it does), her complaining is bizarre too.
In different phrases, that is all about your new coworker being a bit bananapants, and never about any form of new rent customized you weren’t conscious of.
3. Did I mess up by not sending a thank-you notice for my workplace’s wedding ceremony reward?
I acquired married a number of years in the past. I’d began a brand new job in a small workplace of lower than 20 individuals previous to my wedding ceremony, and I solely invited one coworker who, as a result of a carpooling association, I used to be the closest with. This was okay, I believe, since I believe everybody knew we’d change into quick pals exterior of labor. The workplace pitched in to get me a marriage reward that I assume was about $100 and introduced it to me in a gathering (a part of me hopes there was a budgetary merchandise for this, as a result of feeling responsible that folks I barely knew spent cash on me). I thanked them profusely and was very grateful. Nonetheless, the extra I give it some thought, the extra I ponder if I dedicated some form of skilled snafu by not making ready some kind of thank-you card. What was the etiquette for this?
The standard etiquette is that when you thank somebody in particular person (like when the reward is introduced, or while you subsequent see them quickly after), you don’t must additionally ship a thank-you card. Etiquette requires that you just thank them, however not that you just do it in writing.
That stated, thank-you playing cards are all the time a pleasant gesture, even while you’ve already met the etiquette obligations one other method. (And naturally, not everybody is aware of the standard etiquette and a few individuals might anticipate a written notice anyway.) You didn’t commit a fake pas, however when unsure, a written thank-you will hardly ever go improper.
4. Paying primarily based on the place staff dwell
Is it authorized to pay distant emoloyees who work the identical job in a different way primarily based completely upon the state they dwell in? For instance, paying an worker $10,000-15,000 extra as a result of the state requires a minimal wage for that sort of job, however not paying the identical to an worker in a state with no wage protections. These staff would have the very same roles/title. Does that run into any equal pay legal guidelines?
It’s authorized, and it’s fairly frequent! Someday the completely different pay is because of state legal guidelines, such as you cited, however it’s much more frequent for it to be primarily based on the completely different prices of residing by space and/or and completely different market charges for the work in numerous places.
5. How can my boss assist me discover a new job?
Briefly, the job I used to be employed for not exists (no person’s fault, no resentment), however I’m nonetheless helpful as a result of we’re working fairly lean. Nonetheless, as we speak it turned clear from one more “how can we make this work?” dialog with my supervisor of seven months that I would like to depart for my very own achievement/development. I’m thus within the generally-avoided scenario of my supervisor realizing that I’m on the lookout for a brand new job. She is a good particular person and 90% of the explanation I haven’t left but, and has supplied her assist in discovering a brand new job. How can I profit from this beneficiant supply?
Does she have contacts at different firms who she will refer you to? Different leads she will ship your method? If nothing else, she will hopefully be a glowing reference when that’s wanted, but when she will join you with people who find themselves hiring, that’s even higher.