weekend open thread – Jan. 7-8, 2023 — Ask a Supervisor

I’ve been having points with my dad and stepmom about feeling just like the runner as much as my half siblings. That’s a a lot bigger concern however in the intervening time I want a actuality verify if I’m holding onto bitter emotions that making every little thing really feel like a giant take care of my frustration. (The transient context is that I continuously really feel taken benefit of and neglected as a result of I’m the kid residing closest to them, so loads is anticipated of me whereas I reap no monetary advantages like my youthful half siblings do).

My roommate, who they’ve met, has a cat Luna, who I’ve recognized and cherished because the day my roomie introduced her residence. Sadly Luna has a progress in her leg that’s possible most cancers (injection web site sarcoma, look it up, most vets don’t warn about this) and the very best plan of action is to amputate the leg. My roomie began a fundraiser to assist with the prices and Luna’s leg was amputated earlier this week.

I despatched the hyperlink to my household, together with my dad and stepmom (who’re very effectively off). I’m financially unbiased from my household however defined this was vital to me and I might be very grateful to anybody who might assist out my roomie. Lots of my household donated. My dad stated they might donate, which I used to be glad as a result of I hoped for a big donation, understanding how effectively off they’re. I discussed it twice over the cellphone as a result of my dad stated he was having bother with the net donation. Texted my stepmom once I was confirming dinner plans with them as a result of I knew she’d executed the net methods earlier than to assist my dad; she requested me to ship the hyperlink particularly to her and I did.

I checked with my roommate earlier than heading over tonight and so they nonetheless hadn’t donated, 5 days after I despatched the hyperlink to my stepmom a second time. Right now I arrive at my dad’s home for dinner and provides him an replace on Luna; he says to verify with my stepmom concerning the donation. I point out it to her when she arrives, saying that dad stated I ought to verify together with her. She says with an edge in her voice that she is aware of as a result of I discussed it a number of occasions during the last week, so I cease speaking.

However then she appears to be like up from her pill and begins rattling off particulars of the bank card assertion they’ve open for my 26 yr outdated sister, questioning why she spent over $3,800 in a month on a street journey with a pal, however not asking any additional particulars or telling her it’s an excessive amount of cash. Some time later in the identical night, she despatched $100 to my roommate.

I really feel so annoyed, possibly even offended, that my stepmom stated I used to be annoying her with reminders of a donation for a cat I really like like my very own, however had no drawback giving my unemployed sister hundreds of {dollars} to go on a trip. I delight myself on being unbiased so I don’t normally ask my dad and stepmom for cash, however I felt ignored that the one time I ask for cash for one thing vital to me, they ignore it. Please share ideas, even when it’s that I’m too invested and must take a step again.