It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Supervisor, and all December I’m working updates from individuals who had their letters right here answered prior to now.
There might be extra posts than ordinary this week, so hold checking again all through the day.
It’s laborious to consider it’s been almost eight months since I wrote that letter. And what an eight months it has been – particularly for the ex-boss!
Fortuitously, blocking her appeared to do the trick, and I haven’t heard one other phrase about her insane request for me to pay two months of HER mobile phone invoice. After all, I’ve blocked her in every single place possible, however I additionally assume somebody lastly satisfied her she had no leg to face on. However I additionally discovered that MONEY (or lack thereof) might have been the rationale she was pushing me to pay the invoice.
I made a decision to succeed in out to the 2 former workers that I discussed had left to start out their very own enterprise proper earlier than I used to be employed. And boy, did I get a LOT of information. We had shockingly comparable tales in regards to the degree of loopy with the ex-boss, and that was useful to me in recovering from the toxicity and guilt about what occurred after I left (and sure, I did search remedy about it!) I do know lots of people thought I used to be nuts for staying for 2 years, however these two guys? One was there for ten years and the opposite for 12!!
Most apparently, I discovered that they had provided to purchase the enterprise from her once they left. They provided her a particularly reasonable value, and the purchasers would have transferred to their new firm (given they had been doing all of the work for them anyway, it made whole sense). The ex-boss was pushing 65, so it was affordable she would possibly need to retire. Per her ordinary MO, she reacted with emotion as a substitute of pondering it by, bought utterly offended and fired them on the spot. Inside just a few hours, she re-hired them understanding she wanted them to remain out their closing weeks so she might get her act collectively (which included hiring me). After they ultimately left, three purchasers determined to go along with them to their new enterprise. Over the course of the 2 years I labored there, two extra bought fed up and left for his or her firm as effectively. They then had 5 of the unique shopper listing.
Quick ahead to a month after I give up. What I used to be positive would occur had occurred. On the day I left, the corporate nonetheless had 12 purchasers. Simply 4 weeks later, they had been right down to THREE. Two of the 12 left as quickly as they heard I had give up. Six extra left inside a month and went to the corporate of the 2 former workers – the identical workers who had tried to purchase her out. The ex-boss might have been paid and retired peacefully. As a substitute, she let her delight prevail, and two years later, she had misplaced 11 purchasers to their firm anyway – and so they didn’t must pay her a dime. She’s apparently needed to get temp jobs as a result of she isn’t making sufficient to dwell on with simply three purchasers. It’s actually unhappy.
The one factor I’ve heard from her (type of?) was a couple of month in the past. She mailed our firm a field of cookies with a observe wishing us “well in your future endeavors.” To begin with, WEIRD given there’s not any affiliation between our two corporations, however even MORE bizarre – our workers work remotely, and she or he is aware of that. How was it imagined to work with this field of cookies? Have been we imagined to mail every worker a cookie? My boss ended up giving them to her accomplice. A few weeks later, ex-boss texted my boss to ask if she had gotten the cookies. Since my boss didn’t instantly textual content to GUSH with appreciation over a random field of cookies, ex-boss apparently assumed I hadn’t let anybody know they had been obtained (as a result of I’m a horrible particular person).
There are actually a whole lot of loopy tales I would like to write down down from my time there. I as soon as talked about I’d by no means been to New York. Ex-boss abruptly determined we had been going TOGETHER for a weekend (on the top of the pandemic, would possibly I add), that she was paying for it and we might be staying with some pal of hers that I didn’t even know. I declined the provide (a number of occasions). She mentioned she understood however referred to as me per week later to rant how upset and damage she was that “you don’t want to go to New York with me!!!” Or the time I went to her home to assist her repair a pc problem – whereas she stayed in her bed room napping!
BUT! I made it out alive! My hair is rising again. I’m past blissful at my new firm, love my boss and colleagues and even bought a promotion that begins in January! And with out that loopy job, I by no means would have met my present boss. So at the least there’s a silver lining!